
Divorce Rates and Marriage Survival – It’s a Woman’s World After Divorce
Married Couples are much more stressed out than the average person right now. For years married couples have been caught in the crossfire of an economic recession that’s nearly as deep as the recession. Now, those same married couples are hit with a new pandemic that’s tanked the American economy, tossed millions of people out of work, made millions of people homeless, and wiped out the financial assets of hundreds of millions of other Americans. In fact, this recession is the worst since the Great Depression!
Fortunately for married couples, however, the recession isn’t over yet! Even though the unemployment rate has risen, it doesn’t mean the sky’s falling. Realistically, most people who were laid off will find other work within a year or two. Married couples who aren’t together any more (or who haven’t even gotten married yet) are still in a better place than unmarried partners who have lost their homes, have suffered serious injuries, are not engaging in intimacy which can happen when a man is not sexually active, or have gone through traumatic divorce proceedings.
If you’re one of the many married couples who is deeply concerned about the state of their marriage right now, there are some things you can do right now to help stave off a possible pandemic of marriage problems and potential divorces. The first thing you need to understand is that this kind of thing happens to far more married couples than you might realize. Statistics show that nearly half of all marriages end in divorce because the spouses weren’t actually ready for a divorce. And the sad thing about it is that, of those that do end up divorcing, many times the problem wasn’t even the fault of the spouse who initiated the divorce.
This may seem like an extremely unfair equation, but it’s actually very common. Many times the difference in income is enough to drive one partner to feel like they cannot live together any longer, while the other partner simply doesn’t have the income (or doesn’t have the same income that his/her spouse has). This is why many married couples avoid discussing money – they simply don’t want to be lumped in with other “poor” people. But being classified as poor doesn’t automatically mean that you should lose your house and be forced to move out of your current home any time soon.
So instead of expecting your married partners to suddenly become rich overnight, you should start looking at them and their roles in their marriage as the pandemic progresses. As the Pandemic continues and affects more married couples, husbands will need to be more active in their role as provider, while wives will have to worry less about the finances. This means that you should plan on at least a few months worth of extra income for both you and your husband/wife. That’s a lot of extra spending money that a couple could be using right now.
And even though you may think that it is not fair to expect your married partner to suddenly become an irresponsible spender, realize that this is a very hard economic time for everyone. If you both work hard to support the family, it can be tough to give up the lifestyle you have been living for years. However, if you both start living together without a parental responsibility agreement, chances are that you will both have more free time than before. You will also have the opportunity to discuss and strategize about the future of the family and how to keep it together during this time. It’s a win-win situation for everyone involved.